Creating strong sibling bonds in your children are so important. When you have siblings, you always know someone will have your back and that you will have someone you can lean on in hard times. I want to make sure I instill a strong sibling bond with my children like the one I have with my siblings. I grew up the oldest of three and I am so thankful for my little brother and sister. No matter how much we can fight with each other we have always had the mentality that no one messes with the three of us. I am so glad my parents instilled a strong sibling bond with us and I hope that I can help build that kind of bond between Harper and Brayden as well.
Refer to your children as best friends. When we were about to have Brayden we kept telling Harper that her new best friend would be arriving soon. Harper has always said that Brayden was her little buddy and that she would always take care of him. I think it immidetly bonded them and it has kept their bond strong. The older they get this will help them to keep wanting to play together and look out for each other in all of life’s situations.
Show support and cheer them on. We try to cheer on our kids in everything that they do. It doesn’t have to be big, but even cheering on Harper as she remembers her numbers or letters makes a big difference. The more they see the encouragement that Mom and Dad gives them, it will give the other sibling an invitation to cheer on their sibling and create a long lasting bond. I want our children to be each others biggest cheerleaders.
Allow one on one time. Life can get busy but I try to make an effort to spend a little one on one time with each of my kids every day. Rather that be coloring with Harper during Brayden’s nap time, or rolling on the floor with Brayden while Harper works on her latest art project. It does not need to be anything super planned out, just quality time talking with my kids individually. Letting them be their own person is incredibly important. I want to try and avoid the sibling rivalry as much as possible.
Have the older child be the big helper so they feel involved. Something that has made a huge difference in Harper’s bond to Brayden is that she has always been Mommy’s big helper. She loves to be involved so helping me find Brayden’s toys or get something out of my bag has been really fun for her. One day I hope to involve Brayden in little tasks that help out big sister as well. This will encourage a sense of team work with them and I hope they will learn to lean on each other for help.
Stick together. No matter what we are family. I’ve always told Harper that family is so imporant and that we are a team first. That means we are always all together at dance recitals, school plays, etc. It would be a lot easier to leave Brayden home with a friend, but I want them to always know that we will all show up and support the family no matter what.
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